Choosing Your Bridesmaids

Choosing Your BridesmaidsIdeally, choosing your bridesmaids should be a fun process where all of your friends and family rally behind your decision. Even if someone wanted to be selected for a specific role and got passed by, they should still be happy for you and be ready to do whatever you call on them to do during the wedding planning process. However, this isn’t always the case, so often times there is politics involved in your bridesmaid selection process. Fortunately, choosing your bridesmaids doesn’t have to be a nightmare if you use some careful planning and a scientific process to determine who is chosen. Here are some helpful tips on choosing your bridesmaids that will make the process as simple as possible.

Maid of Honor

The very first thing you want to do is to determine who your maid of honor will be. This choice will probably require the most amount of thought and may even be very difficult, but once she has been selected the rest of your bridesmaids can easily fall in place. If you’re having trouble choosing a maid of honor, think about your very best friend in the world and your closest family member. If you feel like there may be a feud based on which friend you choose to be your maid of honor, consider choosing your closest sister since most girls won’t care about the order of bridesmaids after the maid of honor.


Whether or not you choose to have your sister be your maid of honor, you should always consider your closest family members before anyone else. If you truly have friends that are closer than your sisters, it’s certainly okay to choose them instead; just be prepared for some hurt feelings. This is especially true if you choose one sister and not another because this can lead to a harsh sense of rejection. Just remember, your family will always be there for you no matter what life throws at you, so you should always consider them before you consider your friends for a role in your wedding.


Delegating friends to be part of your bridal party can be a little tricky depending on how many different circles you are a part of. For instance, if you hang out primarily with a group of girls that all know each other very well but give the maid of honor title to a childhood friend, there may be some bitterness because she doesn’t know your current friends very well. Similarly, if you choose from within that circle of friends, the other girls in the circle may be hurt because you regard one of them closer than the others. It can be a slippery slope, but just remember that the choice is yours and your girls should back you up no matter what.

Other Considerations

Sometimes your bridesmaid choices won’t be as cut-and-dry as who you want in the bridal party. Other factors such as finances, responsibility level, or just geographic location can stand in the way of a first choice being possible. Make sure you consider all the variables that go into picking your bridesmaids and try to look at it from a scientific point of view. Sometimes it seems like a person is the right choice at first, but when you weigh out all the details it turns out that someone else is a much better fit for that role after all.