Brides: 5 Dont’s for the Wedding Day

Bride Fighting with GroomOkay, ladies, it’s go-time. You’ve spent months planning, and it’s finally time to go say those vows and party the night away. Before you put on the dress and say the “I do,” though, we’ve got a few more words of advice for you to help your wedding be the best that it can be. Specifically, we want you to avoid some common pitfalls that can really bring down the mood. Here are five things you shouldn’t do on your wedding day.

Don’t Obsess about Details

You made the plans. You hired the wedding planner or you chose a solid maid of honor. Now it’s time to let go and let your delegates take care of all the last little issues. Not only should you not have to call a late photographer or arrange for a new wedding cake, you shouldn’t even know that those problems happened until they’re solved. It may be hard to relinquish control after you’ve done all the planning, but you’ve got to try if you’re going to be in the proper headspace to enjoy the day.

Don’t Fight with Your New Groom

Yikes. We wish we didn’t have to say it, but we’ve seen it happen too many times. Somehow, all the stress of the planning finally finds a way out and leads to an argument, right there at the ceremony. Of course, your groom can avoid a fight by not checking out the bridesmaids or being late to the ceremony. But you can keep things on the level by not neglecting him during the reception. Make sure you check in and have some one-on-one time just to enjoy each other’s company, even if you have to sneak off to a broom closet.

Don’t Get Hammered at the Reception

Look, we know your reception is a party. And you’ve definitely earned it. And with an open bar, you’re definitely capable of getting as many drinks in you as you can hold. But it’s worth it to practice moderation; you don’t want one of the few memories of the night to be throwing up in the ladies’ bathroom. Nurse your drinks and keep a good buzz going, but alternate with cups of water so you don’t get several cocktails circling waiting to land.

Don’t Get Dirty on the Dance Floor

A wedding reception is that weird party where all your best club-hopping friends and your parents, in-laws, and long-lost relatives are in attendance. Keep that in mind when it’s time to drop it like it’s hot. Definitely get the dance floor moving and rock the party, but try not to do anything that will make Aunt Ethel have to dig into her purse for her heart pills. Even if it’s your new hubby you’re twerking on, save it for the hotel room later.

Don’t Forget to Hug Your Parents

As big as this day is for you, we promise it’s bigger for your parents. You’re their little girl; in some ways, when they look at you, they still see that five-year-old who skinned her knee riding her bike. As you’re sitting at the wedding party’s table in your awesome dress, they’re realizing that you’re going to go start a family of your own. So take some time to show them love and respect, and let them know you’ll always need them around.

And above all else, don’t think of the wedding as the end. The credits aren’t going to roll; now you get to have a marriage, and that’s both the challenging and the really awesome part. Here’s hoping your marriage lasts a lifetime.

A Basic Bride-To-Be Checklist

Wedding ChecklistWith so many things to keep straight while planning a wedding, the most common method that brides use is a checklist. Having all of the tasks that you need to accomplish on a nice organized sheet can be very helpful and you can simply cross each item off as it is done. The length of this checklist will vary depending on a variety of factors including the size of the wedding, where the wedding is being held, and whether or not you have hired a wedding planner to handle some of the details. Here are a few of the most basic things that should be included on a bride’s checklist when they are starting to plan their wedding.

Guest List

The very first thing you’ll want to do as a bride is determine the size of your guest list. Most of your wedding will revolve around how many guests you’re inviting including the amount of food you need to supply and the size of the venue for the event. If you are in a big hurry and need to start looking at venues right away, your best bet is to figure out what the absolute largest number of guests you could imagine inviting and work from there. Having less guests come to your wedding is easier to manage than having too many.

Arrange the Venue

The next thing on your checklist should be arranging your venues. This not only includes choosing a venue where you’ll be holding the wedding ceremony, but also choosing a venue for the reception. Since you already know how many guests you’ll be inviting, you can start looking in your area for venues that are large enough to accommodate your needs. If money is an issue, you can always consider getting a single venue for both the ceremony and reception; but most brides prefer to have separate venues for each part of the wedding.

Food and Drink

Next, you’ll need to have the food and drink that you’ll be serving your guests on the checklist. Most brides choose to serve dinner to all of their wedding guests followed by a piece of wedding cake a little later in the evening. Additionally, it is customary to have a bar that serves drinks to your guests that are old enough to indulge. Often times a bride will choose to offer free drinks for all of their guests, but it’s not uncommon to have what’s known as a “cash bar” where the wedding guests pay for their drinks themselves.

Transportation

Lastly, you’ll need to make sure that you have transportation arranged between the church or ceremony site and the reception venue. Most commonly, the bride will plan for transportation for the wedding party and give clear instructions to the other guests of how to drive themselves to the wedding reception. However, it is also popular to have transportation arranged for everyone depending on the size of your guest list, but this is only if your budget allows for that type of expense.

After you’ve crossed all of these important things off of your checklist, you can focus on the elements of the wedding that are more fun and focus on you as a bride. This includes picking out your wedding dress, flowers, and other items that will make your wedding distinctly yours. However, smart brides get the main items crossed off their checklist first so they don’t need to deal with distractions while planning the details of their special day.

Holiday Gift Ideas for Brides

Holiday GiftIf you have a friend or family member that is in the process of planning a wedding, then this can be a great opportunity to get them a gift that is perfectly suited to the occasion. Most couples who are planning a wedding are either on a very tight budget or completely racked with stress, so giving her a gift that lets her know you are standing with her can make all the difference in the world. There are many ways you can go with your holiday gift ideas for Brides such as personal treats to practical wedding items. With so many great options available, it can sometimes be helpful to have some choices narrowed down for you. Here are some of the best holiday gift ideas for brides to help you come up with the perfect item for your loved one.

Pampering the Bride

If the idea of giving the bride a special day to relieve her stress and get out of her skin is what you’re thinking, then perhaps a gift card for a complete spa day is the right gift for you. Very few women can resist the idea of a pampering spa day, but this is even truer when the stresses of planning a wedding have gotten the better of her. Giving her a gift that is all about her will not only be much appreciated, it will also be memorable and talked about for years to come.

Wedding Store Gift Cards

Pretty much everything that needs to be purchased for a wedding will cost an arm and a leg, so giving her a gift card to help with some expenses can be a real lifesaver. The best part about giving a gift card is that the bride can buy whatever her heart desires and not end up with something you picked out and she happens to hate. Gift cards can be used for anything she wants, so make sure you pick a store that you know she will love. For instance, if she is into making her own decorations for the wedding, then you may want to get her a gift card to a local craft store. If she is having trouble affording the wedding dress she loves, getting her a gift card to the dress store can make her dreams come true. Find out what will help her most and choose based on that information for the best results.

Personal Chef

When you are in the middle of planning a wedding, the last thing you want to do is go home and cook dinner. Sure, you could just go out to dinner, but most couples planning a wedding won’t have enough for the wedding essentials much less a night on the town. Consider purchasing the services of a personal chef for an evening to put the spark back in their relationship and relieve her stress. Having a delicious meal prepared by a professional will not only be delicious and relaxing, but it will make her feel very special and like she’s the only women on planet Earth. If it seems like the stress of planning the wedding is getting to the bride, nothing turns that around faster than an unforgettably delicious meal.